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I don’t know how you do it

Date: August 17, 2014 Author: OWNER Categories: Donal's Mom's Blog 1

Most people I meet say “I don’t know how you do it” but the question I want to ask is “How do I not do it?” If someone could tell me how I can pull the duvet over my head and weep all day without it affecting the boys, I would like to know. For now, the answer I always give is that we have absolutely no choice.

We are being pulled in a hundred directions. We need to concentrate on Donal and his treatment but also trying to keep life as normal as possible for both our boys. We spend time on fundraising for the Trust to give Donal all the chances we can but also need to spend as much quality time as possible with him. We are acutely aware that the future has two paths and if we end up on one of them, we could look back at this precious time with deep regrets. And of course, we spend so many hours and days sitting by the phone, waiting for each important test results but also really not wanting that phone to actually ring, the consequences of the results are just too huge. Wanting to move forward with Donal’s treatment but on the other hand, knowing what that treatment will do to him and the deviating side effects we can expect.

The phone did eventually ring and the latest results are not exactly what we hoped for but what we wanted may have been unrealistic. Every parent needs to hear that their child is cancer free, we are not there yet but still have 6 months of treatment ahead of us. The brilliant news is that they found no new cancer, and that was a very real possibility.

So we keep moving forward, trying to keep all the balls in the air and staying positive. Donal has defied all the odds so far, we know he can make it to remission and that is what we have to focus on.

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1 Comments: "I don’t know how you do it"

  1. Published by: Maria Bailey Date: August 17, 2014


    You are in the thoughts of us all in Strandhill. I wish you and your family every success with all the treatments. Such a gorgeous little boy with great parents and big brother. You are doing your best. Thinking of you all and we truly do hope everything goes your way – you deserve it. Bryan Maria Grace and Ronnie Bailey (Strandhill)

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